This Week's Thought From The Koby Mandell Foundation
- Sherri Mandell
This week at The Koby Mandell Foundation, a psychologist gave a seminar on resilience to 25 bereaved mothers and widows. These women want to continue on in strength. But it's not so easy.
The first guideline that the psychologist discussed for enhancing resilience had to do with expectations. "If we can expect that the road will be full of bumps," she said, "it won't be as difficult for us to handle setbacks."
One woman who lost her husband to cancer leaned over and whispered in my ear: ‘This isn't a bump in the road. This is when the road is washed away. This is a tsunami."
Traumatic loss isn't a setback. It's a life changer. Sometimes it's a life destroyer.
All of us hope and pray that nothing bad will happen to us. But, perhaps a more realistic hope is this: if something catastrophic does occur, G-d forbid, there will be those there to help us, to comfort us, to care for us, to stay at our side for the long run.
Thanks to all of you for being there for Seth and me, and for the bereaved families and orphans of Israel and the Jewish People.