- Sherri Mandell
Yesterday I led a spiritual
healing workshop for one of our groups of bereaved mothers. I asked them to tell
us about a gift that they had received from their children.
One of the mothers said her
child was a boy who never spoke lashon ha ra slanderous speech. He always tried
to stop her when she gossiped about somebody else.
That was one of the gifts he
gave her. Then other mothers spoke and said that their children had also been
very adamant about not speaking or hearing lashon ha ra. It was startling that
so many of the children had been similar in that way.
The Torah teaches us the danger
of lashon ha ra. Commentators attribute Yosef 's slavery and exile in part
to speaking lashon ha ra about his brothers.
Bereaved parents face the
temptation to speak badly about God, to excoriate God, to be so angry with God
that they see no good in Him, in the world, or in their lives.
To speak lashon ha ra about
But at the moment we most want
to speak badly about God, we are instructed to praise Him and his great
What is Kaddish, but the refusal
to speak lashon ha ra about God?